We often ponder how a young person can survive the loss of a parent; it is difficult to put into words, particularly if you have not lost a parent at a young age. The healing process can last for years. During this interim, mental health issues, addiction, suicide, and bad decisions are often inextricably intertwined with the child’s journey towards closure and possible peace of mind.
A positive and transparent relationship between children and their parents is essential to a proper upbringing. When a parent is removed from the relationship, it is important to keep in mind that children are not as resilient as one might think; they often need mental health treatment and support.
Katy Faust is co-author of the new book, “Them Before Us: Why We Need a Global Children’s Rights Movement, where she addresses some of these issues. She notes, “Whether its the definition of marriage, whether you’re looking at divorce, whether you’re looking at reproductive technologies, whether you’re looking at adoption or birth certificates or polygamy or whatever it is, if you look at all those issues from the child’s perspective and through the filter of children’s rights to their mother and father, you get the right answer.”
“Children are harmed when they lose the relationship with their mother and father, and all of society is harmed if we can’t defend these fundamental rights,’ she continued,” the Federalist reports.
The book is available on Amazon, and the content is described as follows.”
“The book features the real-life stories of children by the hundreds, and every story makes the irrefutable case that a child’s mother and father are critical to their mental, physical, and emotional well-being.
Them Before Us dispels prevalent myths concerning children’s rights, such as:
• Kids only need love and safety—moms and dads are optional.
• Love makes a family; biology is irrelevant.
• Marriage is a vehicle for adult fulfillment—it has nothing to do with kids.
• Children are resilient and will “get over” divorce.
• Studies show that kids with same-sex parents fare “no different” than kids with a mom and dad.
• Sperm and egg donor kids are fortunate because they are so wanted.
• Surrogacy is a great way to help wannabe parents have a baby.
• Reproductive technologies are no different than adoption.
This well-researched book identifies the wide-ranging harms resulting from mother- and father-loss, and it provides a roadmap for effective children’s rights advocacy. Whether you’re seeking to make sense of your own fractured childhood or yearn to prevent similar struggles for the next generation, Them Before Us will equip you to be the adult who should have advocated for you as a child.
By defending children’s rights, we protect the heart of every child and set a course that will decimate a myriad of the social ills currently plaguing our world. When we disregard those rights, children are reduced to commodities to be cut and pasted into any adult relationship.
Them Before Us clarifies how children have a right to their mother and father, and that defending those rights can change the world.” The book is available here.